Secularness—the biggest challenge
Why are the traditional family values fast eroding? Put
differently, why are families increasingly falling apart even in a world that is
rapidly becoming a community of some sort? Put in context, why is it that the
drama at the beginning repeats itself in a lot of homes today? The answer lies
more in our increasing secularness than in any other factor, as shall soon be
made clear.
For now
It is helpful to restate the good news that marital
problems can be overcome if members put in a sincere effort, for the best
solution is only as good as the sacrifices persons within the family are ready,
able and willing to make.
It is necessary to break the family into its basic
component in order to put in place a practical diagnostic system so that
marital ills can be corrected at source. The family is like a football team in
a match. In order to be victorious, all departments of the team must work
unitedly. The defence must coordinate with midfield, which must, in turn,
connect well with strikers, whose job is to deliver the goals.
Father
He is the head of the family. Being the nucleus of the
family, all members must rally around him. The traditional role of the father
puts him in charge of the family, whether or not he wins the bread or someone
else does. True, the father must work hard to provide for his family. He
directs persons under his roof and gives them the needed protection. Sad to
say, circumstance can be in his way of succeeding in this area. Even so, he
must not give up. If he is seen to be making real effort, he will earn the
respect of his family. This is noteworthy because the divine arrangement that
puts the man at the helms of affairs did not place conditions when it made
father the head of the family, as adherents of various religions can confirm.
Has he really failed?
If he fails, the entire family fails.
